As if their money was a secret macro world of the utility bills, insurances and taxes that no one should ever know about. Then you have to figure it out.
What’s the big secret? It’s about privacy regarding privacy. If you may have one area under your total control, would you choose the arena of money? For yourself to keep so sacred, no one would know anything about your money.
Now it’s payback time, it’s the moms’ private area too. My friend Cammy’s mom has her realm. We know it’s made up of a few things. Pension, social security, and then there’s incoming rental property funds, the ex-boyfriend who some how suddenly had a new-used truck. The gifted money, before Cammy moved back to mom’s home town, that Cammy received annually at Christmas.
Once her mom got ill, Cammy became the sleuth of the private part of her mom’s life. Cammy looked, and stacked and confronted, and argued and toiled to let go of her inheritance now gone with her mom’s last lover. Then realized, Cammy screamed, “what was my mother being so ‘trippy’ about. There’s nothing new here. So she gave money away. It’s too late now, to get it back. And she’s fine. It’s all her, in her checkbook the monthly bills and incomes. What – why was she hostile about her money?”
Cammy paused to think about her own money. It’s her money, and again let me repeat it’s also - her money. The individuation of a buck allows each of us to keep it or run away, if we have any.
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